There are many mysteries in life. Predicting how children will behave at weddings is one of those mysteries! I’ve photographed several hundred weddings and seen a range from amazingly well behaved and executing their assigned roll perfectly to a complete and uncontrollable distraction. Of course, none of that is a surprise. But when you consider having children involved in your wedding, there are a few things to consider. The most important thing you should assess is what your tolerance level is for a child who chooses to draw outside the lines as he or she is walking down the aisle. More directly, if you are okay with your 5 year old flower girl making it halfway down the aisle and then veering off to check out who knows what and never making it to the alter, then it’s all good. But if you are someone who gets a little out of sorts when plans go awry then you might want to rethink making your 6 year old nephew the ringbearer. It’s been said that you “can’t control the direction of the wind, all you can do is adjust your sails”. That seems to be good advice when you choose to put children in your weddings. Now that I think about it, it’s pretty good advice for almost anything you encounter in life. If you would like to read more on this subject, check out this piece on children at weddings from The New York Times. To see more wedding moments with kids, check out AlanWeinerPhotography.com.